2022.01.29 07:44 steendc cry’s

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2022.01.29 07:44 ThrowawayRA-514 Blame shifting and distorted perceptions?

My fiancee of 5 years recently left me and moved out. We had some limited contact since but after another argument, it seems like she's decided to go NC. It hurts but I think that's best so she can deal with her mental health issues.

That's allowed me to reflect on a lot of the more negative things that happened and I've realized there was a lot of blame shifting going on. Maybe I'm wrong, but to give you some examples:
- she would start arguments by getting angry and saying things she knows hurt me, and when I would get upset about it she'd say I'm being a narcissist by playing the victim
- due to anger management problems, it was really easy to set her off and no attempts at taking a break or trying to calm her down would work. She would keep verbally berating me and pushing buttons, but the moment I'd react to being cornered, i was being abusive
- she would often misinterpret things that were said or done and purposely find negative intent to them and get upset. When trying to explain what I actually meant, I'd be accused of trying to change the story and gas light her
- I'd attempt to be as patient with her as I can and try to make her happy, but the moment she got upset about anything, I'd be told I "never" tried
- she would constantly bring up things from my past that brought me shame and made me upset, and then act like I'm being a narcissist for getting upset about being "called out"
- she would misplace her own things, then yell at me for "losing" them or throwing them away - so I'd have to dig through all kinds of closets and places, only to have it be somewhere where I would have had no reason to put the item

There's a lot more examples I don't care to provide. But it was always that I'm the one to blame, I'm the narcissist (and somehow all other close people in her life as well), that I'm the one starting arguments, that I'm gaslighting her for correcting her incorrect perception, I'm abusive for reacting to her verbal and emotional abuse and anger, and so on.

Honestly, what the hell. I'm not mad at her, I understand she has a lot of unresolved trauma and untreated mental illnesses, and I still love her regardless. But, either my perception of reality is completely warped, or it seems like she wanted to be the victim in everything and shift all the blame onto me and others. I don't understand it.

She's (supposedly) starting her mental health care back up (medication and talk therapy), which makes me hope that she'll iimprove. What baffles me is that she wasn't this way at all when I met her.

Am I perhaps misinterpreting things and she was really right that I'm the one to blame? If not, is it possible for someone's mental illnesses to be causing all those distorted perceptions?

Whether or not I ever get back with her or even talk to her again, I want her to get her life and mental health back on track, and I wonder if a therapist is really going to be able to help if they buy her twisted versions of everything.

I guess my questions are, why would someone act like that, what causes it, can it be helped, and is there any way to repair a relationship (romantic or otherwise) after all that?
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2022.01.29 07:44 Yrythaela The Sinners who Never Sinned, a Teaser for the first Demo and Act of the game.

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2022.01.29 07:44 Lunbrgtd Why do my pictures on kijiji look like crap ?

Why do my pictures on kijiji look like crap ? The pictures I add to my ad.
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2022.01.29 07:44 QueenPersiaa Have this lovely tropical bonsai and unsure if i should remove it from the pot and rocks that have been cemented in there. Any recommendations on how to get this baby thriving again?

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2022.01.29 07:44 Neubs23 I dont make the rules.

I dont care what anybody thinks, but Bob is right. I will forever more be refering to Vin Diesel as "The Diese"
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2022.01.29 07:44 ok_ad748s_alt I currently am subscribed to 112 people on YouTube

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2022.01.29 07:44 Affectionate_Sky_562 I'm sick of dating a child

He isn't a child but he acta like one 24/7. Ask him to do anything remotely adult and he shuts down and has a tantrum. I ask him to brush his teeth more than once a day and it's an issue. I ask him to either commit to studying his course and he has a tantrum. I ask him to equal responsibility of chores and he has a tantrum. I'm just over it. I don't have time for his shit. He's unrealistic, immature and just such a fucking drag to deal with. I feel responsible for him because he's not responsible for himself. He ruins relationships he has with people over the smallest things because he can't sallow his ego and pride. He constantly complains about how he has no friends but then refuses to reach out to people that he never made an effort to keep in contact with because if they wanted to be his friend they would've made the effort. It's not like he didn't drop out in year 10 and also happened to drop off the face of the earth too and yes some did try to keep in contact with him, he just doesn't put any effort in and doesn't realise that. I have to organise his driveinf lessons because he's too lazy. I have to get him to apply for jobs (I've found his last 3). I'm practically a full time parent for him because he can't be an adult for 10 minutes.
It's genetic. His mum is like this. She raised him to be like this.
I love him too much. My standards are low for him because I plan on him being a stay at home dad because with his attitude and effort I doubt he would have a career that would allow us to afford childcare. Even then I'd probably have to hire a nanny as a doubt he'd look after kids right. He gets home from work and Playa video games. There's nothing wrong with that expect for the fact that he never studies or does his school work and wehn I try to plan dates with him he puts rust feist because"sorry baby there was a wipe and it's my only chance I'll have to play the game for awhile" or "I don't feel good at anything and video games are the only thing I'm decent at".
I've tried to get him to take up hobbies. He likes to play pool so I told him to enter some completions. But no. He won't. Because "I'm not good enough". I tell him that he doesn't need to win. I tell him it's just so he can get our of the house to meet people to play with and he won't.
Yes he's depressed and yes he won't do anything about it. I have very light bi polar and can handle it without being on medication (in a few years I will have to take it but for now I'm okay. It's just a kidney issues and other health issues. Its a long story), but it's an issue for him because I get depressed. When I bring up he's mental health it's a don't talk about it issue. Like ... Excuse me.
I'm just so tried of it. I'm so done.
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2022.01.29 07:44 AmySharpton Save $200 and commute in style with this foldable electric bike

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